I’m sure you’ll see a lot of these kind of posts in the upcoming days, but as the new year approaches what better time than now to set some new year’s resolutions/ goals for 2018.
Goal 1; Be Happy
My first and most important goal is to be happy. Now I know for a lot of you reading this, it seems like an easy thing to accomplish but unfortunately, it’s not for me. I won’t go into much detail but for the last few months on 2017 I haven’t been happy. And honestly, I have no idea why. I felt like I couldn’t talk to anyone or tell them how I felt because just saying it in my head sounds stupid. I have no reason not to be happy. I kept my feelings bottled up because I felt like if I told people they wouldn’t understand, or they’d think I was saying it for attention. But I’ve come to realise that one way to make myself happy is to communicate my feelings and not keep it bottled up. Which brings us to our second goal.
Goal 2; care less about others opinions.
As much as I say I don’t care what people think of me, to an extent I do, deep down I’m a people pleaser. By that I don’t mean I want everyone to like me, more that I want people that I care about friends and family to think I’m a nice a good person for them to be around. Does that make sense? For example I used to constantly worry about what my boyfriend’s house mates thought of me, I constantly worried that they didn’t like me or that I wasn’t enough to be with him and shit like that, turns out they do like me and it’s all in my head ( at least that’s what they told me, still not 100% convinced ) but anyway I need to stop stressing about what others think of me and be the best person I can be, and do whatever makes me happy.
Goal 3;Be more confident
I’ll admit I put on a façade that I’m confident and all that shit, but most the time I’m really not. For instance, when it comes to wearing stuff I want to wear, like c’mon I can’t be the only one that has put on a bomb ass outfit but has been too scared to wear it in public because it shows too much skin, or you can see the food baby or it’s not what society classes as fashionable. But at the end of the day, who gives a fuck. Who cares if sally down the road doesn’t think your skirt was so 2007 or if 12_johnny4 thinks you look “fat” in that dress. Who the fuck cares. You gotta be confident in your own skin. I mean that’s the problem with me, I preach but never take my own advice but 2018 is the year that I start or at least try to because I have some pretty good advice. Moving away from clothing goal 3.1 I guess you could say is being confident enough with myself to start a YouTube channel. I’ve always been a huge fan of the YouTube community and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told myself and others that I’m going to start a channel, but I never do. It relates back to goal 2 as well, I’ve been too scared to start one in case people I know see it and judge me but like I just said I need to be more confident with myself and not care if Lindsey from math class doesn’t like my content. So yeah hopefully some time during 2018 I’ll have my channel, we’ll see.
Goal 4; bye to the Toxics
I’m sure you’ll see this new year’s resolution with a lot of people. But I think starting a new year means you can start a new foundation and say goodbye to the toxic people in your life. Over the year I’ve come into contact with a few people that I thought would be good friends but I soon came to realise that they were toxic and not worth my friendship. At the end of the day if someone in your life e.g a friend, family member, co-worker or even a significant other is constantly causing shit or making you feel worthless or simply not being a good friend whatever it may be, its’ time to say good bye. After everything I have experience this year I’ve realised that just because you are a genuine caring person with good intention, doesn’t mean others around you are. And you need. And especially with me, I need to stop putting so much effort into people that don’t do the same to me.
Goal 5; focus on myself
Along with being happy my main goals for 2018 are learning to drive and studying to become and interior designer. So I need to push myself so I can achieve those goals by the end of the year.
Goal 6; Be healthy
Surprisingly enough I really enjoy healthy food, salads fruit veg whatever you name it (that was the only healthy foods I could think of don’t judge me) but anyway, I really enjoy eating salads. Like don’t get me wrong if it was between a salad and TGIF’s Fridays Jack Daniel chicken strips you can bet your ass I’ll choose TGIF’s but still. Overall, I just need to eat healthier and start working out. One of my main concerns right now is that I’m not happy how I look, every time I look in the mirror I just see another flaw or imperfection and it sounds silly, but I know dropping a few pounds and eating healthy will make me not only look healthier but hopefully also make me happier.
Goal 7; Say yes
I was watching something the other day, I can’t for the life of me remember what it’s called but they had a goal of saying yes more. It sounds really silly, but I found it really inspirational. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve passed up a good opportunity to do something because I was too scared, or I had to save money or other reasons. As I get older I’ve come to realise that you start to regret the stuff you didn’t do, as oppose to the stuff you did. Which brings us to our last goal.
Goal 8; Post more
I think this pretty much sums itself up, but instead of writing for others and what I think they’d like to read I need to start writing for myself.
I’d love to know what your goals/ new year’s resolutions are feel free to leave them in the comments.